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'I will just die in debt': How student loans are drowning women

As Biden considers forgiving some federal student loans, many women, especially women of color, are scared they will have to choose between marriage, a house or children – and paying off debt
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A note on a student's cap reads, "I am in so much debt please help" during graduation at Northeastern University on May 3, 2019.Suzanne Kreiter / Boston Globe via Getty Images

Tasha Kaminsky, a director of development at a non-profit organization in St. Louis, would love to have children. In many ways, the timing could not be better. Kaminsky, 33, is happily married, has a stable job and owns a home. Standing in the way, however, is one major obstacle: her student loan debt.

It's been 10 years since Kaminsky took out a $75,000 federal loan for graduate school, and she has never missed a payment. Before the pandemic-era pause on federal loan repayments took effect in March 2020, between $250 to $500 of her salary went towards paying off her debt every month. After a decade of payments, Tasha still owes $107,411.

"I genuinely think I will just die in debt," Kaminsky told Know Your Value.

While President Joe Biden considers taking action to forgive some federal student loans, the federal moratorium on student loan payments is set to expire in August. Once it does, affording child care – an average $10,041 per year in Missouri – in addition to Kaminsky's student loan debt has made the idea of starting a family even more daunting. "We can either continue to live comfortably, or we can live on a shoestring budget because of the student loans,” she said.

Kaminsky is far from alone. Nadia Yusuf, a 28-year-old attorney in New York City, said she would move to a job with a better work-life balance for less pay were it not for her student loans. Another New York attorney, Tochi (who declined to publicly share her full name out of concern of offending her employer), said she would pursue a career in domestic violence law if her loans were less expensive.

Tasha Kaminsky, right, a director of development at a non-profit organization in St. Louis, would love to have children.  Standing in the way, however, is one major obstacle: her student loan debt.
Tasha Kaminsky, right, a director of development at a non-profit organization in St. Louis, would love to have children. Standing in the way, however, is one major obstacle: her student loan debt.Courtesy of Tasha Kaminsky.

"How am I supposed to accumulate wealth for myself to venture out on my own or do something different?" Yusuf wondered.

Of the 45 million Americans owing a total of $1.7 trillion in federal and private student loans, two-thirds are women. Women of color are particularly hard hit, a situation exacerbated by a racialized and gendered wage gap.

According to a recent CNBC and Momentive survey, Black and Hispanic women are twice as likely as their male counterparts to have student debt.

And, the racial gap in student loan debt has grown over the last 20 years. Between 2000 and 2018, the median student debt for white borrowers went from $12,000 to $23,000. For Black borrowers, it has gone up from $7,000 to $30,000, according to an analysis from the Roosevelt Institute. Black women, on average, owe $41,466.

"Student loan debt for many is now untenable," said Dr. Nicole Smith, chief economist at the Georgetown University Center on Education and the Workforce. "Are student loans an investment in human capital? Absolutely. But should we pay for this investment 10, 20, even 30 years after graduation?"

She added that for many Black women, trying to pay off student loans is “like running against the wind.”

That’s exactly how Joella Jones, a 33-year-old litigation attorney, feels. Jones said she would be able to save enough money to buy a house were it not for her student loans.

Joella Jones at her graduation from Columbia Law School. Jones currently owes $363,066 in federal loans for her law, master's, and undergraduate degrees.
Joella Jones at her graduation from Columbia Law School. Jones currently owes $363,066 in federal loans for her law, master's, and undergraduate degrees.Courtesy of Joella Jones.

Growing up in Denver, Colorado, Jones, never imagined earning as much money as she currently does now in New York City. Her father and uncle grew up in poverty and became the first in their family to attend college. After earning his doctoral degree, her father became a professor at the University of Denver -- serving as a beacon of the kind of mobility made possible by higher education.

So, when Jones graduated from Columbia Law School and started at a high-paying firm last year, she felt like she'd struck gold. But the reality of repaying her student loans soon kicked in. Jones currently owes $363,066 in federal loans for her law, master's, and undergraduate degrees. Not to mention, she and her husband have another mouth to feed with the birth of their baby boy, Abraham, in April of last year.

They hoped to purchase a house so Abraham could have more space than their current one-bedroom apartment. But when the pause on loan payments ends this summer, Jones anticipated having to contribute $3,000 a month towards her loans, pulling her dream of buying a home further away.

"It feels really crushing," Jones said.

Many mothers with student loan debt face the same dilemma. According to a study by the American Association of University Women, women spend an average $920 per month on housing, $396 on car loans or leases, and $307 on student loans. For the 16 percent who are mothers, an additional $520 goes towards childcare every month – leaving them with a monthly deficit of $372.

Dr. Richelle Brooks, a K-12 principal and founder of ReTHINK It, an organization dedicated to addressing systemic racism in education, also feels this deficit.

Once the pause on loan payments ends in a few months, Dr. Brooks will need to contribute $598 a month towards her $240,000 student debt through an income-repayment plan. As a single mother of two, she does not see this as an option. "I am in the hole each month. Where is that $598 going to come from?" she said.

As the co-founder of the Los Angeles chapter of The Debt Collective, a national union of debtors, Dr. Brooks advocates for full student loan cancellation as a means for economic justice. "I'd even go so far as to say that indebtedness is Jim Crow 2.0," she said.

Student Debtors Demand Debt Cancellation
Supporters of The Debt Collective (including Dr. Richelle Brooks, second from the left) convene at the U.S. Department of Education to demand full student debt cancellation on April 04, 2022 in Washington, DC.Courtesy of the Debt Collective. / Getty Images for MoveOn & Debt C

According to a December Morning Consult poll, at least 62 percent of Americans support student loan forgiveness, with 20 percent in support of full cancellation. Another 15 percent said only the lowest-income graduates should have their balances cleared.

If not full debt cancellation, Dr. Brooks argued for loan forgiveness that includes a threshold that takes a student's generational wealth (or lack thereof) into account.

This is a feature of loan forgiveness scholars at the Brookings Institute have advocated for, as well. "If implemented correctly, student debt cancellation could be a powerful tool in dismantling institutional discrimination by shrinking racial wealth disparities,” wrote Dr. Andre Perry.

There are, of course, success stories of women fully repaying their debt. Liz Lee, a corporate lawyer from Seattle, successfully paid off her student loans – but at a significant cost.

In her first job out of law school, Lee, now 41, owed $200,000 in federal loans to the University of California Hastings and to Scripps College, where she received her undergraduate degree. She was confident she would pay off her loans in due time – she grew up in what she described as extreme poverty, with parents, both Chinese immigrants, who earned combined income of $30,000 a year. If Lee knew how to do anything, it was to hustle.

Liz Lee, a corporate lawyer from Seattle, said that while she was successfully able to pay off her student loans, it came at a significant cost.
Liz Lee, a corporate lawyer from Seattle, said that while she was successfully able to pay off her student loans, it came at a significant cost.Courtesy of Liz Lee.

Then the 2008 financial crash happened, and any sense of financial security vanished. "I was a corporate lawyer," Lee explained. "I went from being really busy one day and the next, crickets." Within weeks, her company began laying employees off. She knew several of her coworkers had safety nets. "It's fine. My husband is an engineer," she remembered one coworker telling her.

"I've got no one," Lee recalled thinking.

So, Lee decided to hustle once again. She couch-surfed at friends' apartments while she maintained her job at the law firm. She saved nothing and contributed nothing to her 401K retirement plan. It was tough, but it was doable – she was unmarried, did not have children, and had minimal expenses to account for. For three years, Lee contributed as much of her paycheck – sometimes $15,000 to $20,000 – towards paying off her loans.

"People thought I was insane, but I was driven by fear," she explained. "I was afraid that I'd be homeless with a huge debt over my head."

A week before she turned 30, Lee completely paid off her debt.

Eleven years later, Lee owns a home with her husband and 8-month-old son. The fact that she nor her husband has debt has made all the difference in starting a family and saving money for retirement. "It's been a lot easier to pursue what we want out of our family life because we don't have that debt hanging over us," Lee explained.

Still, Lee says she would support a student loan debt forgiveness program that accounts for the borrower's profession and economic background.

"I think there's probably a way in which we can make this work," Lee said. "So that you don't have people who are paying off their loans into their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s or until they die, essentially."

Yusuf shared that sentiment. "The narrative of the American dream is that if you work hard and you get an education, you'll get a job, you'll be successful, and you'll be all set," she said. "But it feels like the conditions are stacked against that, especially for women and especially for Black women."